Hello, I’m January
Inspiration and thoughts on God and faith, written by a simple human, navigating life through the messy and sometimes chaotic.
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You are making your comeback
Ever fallen? I have. I do. All.the.time. I’m clumsy, and manage to trip over my own two feet on surfaces most can easily glide over. My last tumble? Broke my wrist, required surgery with hardware, and months of physical therapy to use that much needed wrist and hand again.
I’m not 100 percent. According to docs, I may never be. But I came back from it.
Ever been knocked down? I don’t mean by something or someone physically…though I have been. Even knocked out cold before by a neighborhood boy in middle school. What I mean is knocked down emotionally. Mentally. Like someone is taking hits at you day in and day out, and it’s just wearing you out. Maybe it’s even just life doing the hitting.
After a season of night falls and push backs. After the heartache of wrong turns and sidetracks. Just when they think they’ve got you game set match, Here comes the comeback -Danny Gokey
Comebacks. We all love the comeback story. The athlete whose career was good as gone, but gets back out on the field. The boy who is sick, but miraculously recovers. The one who loses everything from some natural disaster, but rebuilds.
“So he returned home to his father. And while he was still a long way off, his father saw him coming. Filled with love and compassion, he ran to his son, embraced him, and kissed him. His son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against both heaven and you, and I am no longer worthy of being called your son.’ “But his father said to the servants, ‘Quick! Bring the finest robe in the house and put it on him. Get a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet. And kill the calf we have been fattening. We must celebrate with a feast, for this son of mine was dead and has now returned to life. He was lost, but now he is found.’ So the party began. Luke 15:20-24
Comebacks are inspiring.
But they require some things.
What are the elements of a comeback? Money? Resources? Insurmountable wisdom?
No…it’s realizing that perfection is a myth. A standard that’s unachievable in our human strength.
It’s cutting yourself a break for making a wrong turn. Realizing that falls are inevitable when you are growing and learning. Think about it-babies learning to walk fall down all the time. They get back up and walk all over again, and we applaud. We can do the same. Get back up. Applaud our willingness and perseverance to keep going.
Oh, yes. Keep going. Even on the worst days. With a positive attitude. Knowing He has gotten you through the worst before.
You were knocked down (even out) but not defeated. He made sure of it.
It’s offering yourself some forgiveness, because we all take turns we shouldn’t. Paths that looked enticing and inviting, until we got too far into the trees.
Offering it to others, too. Because we can’t move forward without it.
Getting back up on your horse, and learning to ride all over again.
And knowing that if you fall…it’s OK. He will catch you, and give you the opportunity to get it right…all over again.
Those are the makings of a comeback.
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Blooming in His time
But the godly will flourish like palm trees and grow strong like the cedars of Lebanon. Psalm 92:12
I was a bit of a late bloomer. I am not speaking physically here, I am speaking in terms of where we rate ourselves on how well we are doing based on the seemingly “successful” lives of others. I was never a conformist, so not sure I ever thought God would have intended any path in my life to conform to any “worldly” and acceptable pattern.
This is not to say I didn’t have big dreams. I wanted to go to college after high school, join the FBI (I said they were big), study criminal behavior…my life didn’t go as I had planned. As I had dreamed. It took detours of my own choosing. I took a long and winding path to lead me to where I am today. I bloomed later than most. And that’s OK, because maybe that is how God intended it.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21
When I think of blooming, I always think of flowers. I like to garden, and I have found that there are some flowers that I can enjoy for a season in my garden, and then “poof” they are gone. They bloom super fast. But then they quickly start to lose all their blooms as soon as the day gets hot, as soon as it gets too dry, as soon as any adversity comes. They can’t withstand the long, hot, hard days. These flowers don’t make it past one good, hot summer. They quickly lose their luster.
But then, I remember the story of the bamboo. I remember hearing this story when I was sitting in on a lesson when my oldest was a member of our church’s youth group. Each time I see one of these plants in our local Lowe’s, I feel the desire to purchase one-just to remember the late bloomers.
Enter the bamboo plant…
I bought one though…today Lowe’s just called my name a little louder. The bamboo plant can be planted from seed at the same time as any other plant, watered and nurtured. Provided the same amount of care and love. Yet, that other plant may grow significantly larger and faster. While you see nothing from that bamboo. The bamboo plant won’t start sprouting any leaves until about the fifth year, and then within six months time it can grow between 80 to 100 feet tall.
Does it mean that nothing is happening for four years? That the seed you are tending is laying there doing nothing? That what you are doing is not making a difference? Or that your suffering, or your twisty path, that may look different is all for naught? No-you; like the bamboo; are growing strong roots. Roots strong enough to sustain you for the journey that lies ahead just for you.
God knows that you are not the average garden flower. Not the average houseplant. Not like the rest that can be nurtured for a bit, walk the same path as everyone else, and quickly fall away.
You are the bamboo. You grow along a different path. A different speed. A different schedule. But you grow strong roots. Maybe a late bloomer, but when you bloom, He knows you will be standing tall.
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WWJD: Still casting stones?
Love doesn’t keep score of the sins of others. 1 Corinthians 13:5, MSG
My husband and I have had to do some crawling back. Crawling back to the beginning of what we had at year one of a 15 year marriage. In doing so we read, and we began reading a devotion weekly that tackled some difficult junk.
Let’s jump back for a second. Read the header of this blog post. “Straight Up Messy Truth.” Does that give you a clue that I will not shy away from the mess? And folks, marriage? It is messy. This may not be what you thought you would hear today, but hang on-if your marriage is not messy, and you do not fight. You do not have a struggle, or have not had hardship-hold on…it is coming. Or, you are hiding something. Because straight up-we are human. We are messy. And every single one of our relationships will be, too. Even those we vow to remain in “til death do us part.”
Now, back to that devotional…and another mess. In the beginning of this particular exercise the authors of the book Closer, Jim and Cathy Burns recall the story of the woman caught in adultery: “The woman was first brought to Jesus in shame. Jewish law was clear she could be stoned to death. (We still don’t know why the man involved in the sin was missing).”
I had never thought of that before. When I read it…wow, I became angry. Bitter. How dare she be dragged into the streets to be stoned, and he…he was just able to walk away. She had to stand before all these people, shamed for her sin. And where, where was he?
This was my husband’s response: “Probably holding a stone in the crowd.”
Possibly. And for a couple weeks I held onto that image. The woman. Dragged into the square. Everyone talking. Her shame and sin for all to see. The man hiding in the shadows, ready to throw the first stone.
Until I read the passage again, a month or so later. Read the conversation she had with Jesus as she knelt on the ground, and saw this as I had so many times before:
“Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?” “No, Lord,” she said. And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.” John 8:10-11
He may have spoken it to that woman, but it applied to everyone in that crowd. Even the man. If we confess of our sins, we are then told to “go and sin no more.” We are given the opportunity to live a new life without shame. No one can cast a single stone because we no longer walk in that way. We no longer do those things. We no longer make those same choices. We hand him our sin. He forgives us, and we don’t do that thing ever again.
Woman. And man.
We all are given this opportuntiy because we could have stones cast at us. We could all look out at the crowd in guilt and shame. There may have been a woman kneeling there, but it could have easily been that man.
And Jesus would have offered him the same thing. Forgiveness. The opportunity to go and sin no more.
What’s that got to do with keeping records of wrongs? Well, think about it. Those people in the crowd couldn’t wait to stone that woman. And do we do this at times? Hold stones of judgment? Stones of all the things done against us, so we can throw them out at just the right time? Come on…admit it-we all throw stones like ammunition when we argue.
But Jesus doesn’t. He didn’t. He wanted to make sure no wrong could be held against the woman.
That she could leave that square without sin. Without shame.
When we throw stones, we shame all over again. And Jesus doesn’t do that. He doesn’t throw stones.
He offers us grace. Mercy. Forgiveness. A new way of life where sin lives “no more.”
To the woman. And yes…to the man.
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Encouragement is your business
Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29
When you think of unwholesome talk, what do you think of? Some think of cursing. You know-swear words. Let’s be real-I am fond at times of swear words. Maybe not fond, but they feel really good when things are going really bad.
They just don’t sound so good to the person who hears them.
You know what else is unwholesome? Gossip. Oh yes…see Paul wasn’t just talking about cursing in this statement, he was talking about anything that dishonors him, and also others.
We are all guilty. “Did you hear? Let me tell you about…Mmmhmm, they sure did do that.” Gossip. It’s messy. And in my experience in the midst of these conversations, nothing encouraging is happening. There isn’t much building being done, but a lot of tearing.
Being involved it doesn’t feel as bad. Witnessing and hearing it…it feels and hears as bad as that curse word. It stings. I often leave the table, or pass by an overheard conversation and leave wondering: “What will be said about me when I walk away?”
Here is a question: Is what they are doing or have done any of your business? Probably not.
You know what is your business? Your prayer. Your encouragement. Your words-those that build up. Maybe choosing not to participate in the conversation that’s all up in someone’s business.
Your business? It’s not what they are doing. It is to be about your Father’s business-the encouraging business.
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WWJD: Be a joy, not a jerk
Love is not rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable. 1 Corinthians 13:5, NLT
This post is a two-fer because these two principles work hand in hand. Words and the actions that come with them have power. In fact, Scripture discusses the power of words in many places. One such place is in James 3:8, when the tongue is described as “restless, evil and full of deadly poison” (NLT).
The tongue is deadly when words that are rude, mean, and filled with irritation shoot off of it like nothing. Using intentional hurtful actions driven by anger or hurt to make a point, won’t ensure a relationship will grow and flourish.
These kinds of words and actions can be hurtful. These kinds of words and actions are damaging. These words leave scars. These words and actions are deadly to relationships.
We have all been rude. Displayed bad manners, forgotten to speak to someone, cut someone off in traffic, interrupted someone, or said something hurtful unintentionally. I am not talking about bad manners.
I am talking about intentional hurt because we are irritated, or hurt ourselves. Provoking anger because we are angry. Retaliating because we are in our feelings, so we do something that will trigger a deep wound in another person. Ouch, you got me. Well, ha! I got you. now. Take that! A rude remark here. A silly response there. You lose your cool. You lack total self-control, come up out of your holy character, and before you know it, you have done things, and said things that have cut too deep to ever take back.
This is not an expression of love. Not at all.
According to the Kendrick brothers in The Love Dare, “When under pressure, love doesn’t turn sour. If you are walking under the influence of love, you will be a joy, not a jerk.”
Even when you are hurting, you can still be a joy to the person you love, and the ole brothers give three ways to honor our loved ones without being rude and irritable.
The first of these is putting into practice the Golden Rule. You know the one: “Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” (Luke 6:31, NLT). Would you want to be called crazy? Would you want to be dismissed when you had a concern? Ignored? Yelled at? Treated like a nuisance? Ridiculed? Criticized? Would you want someone to rage at you when you made a mistake, or use your weaknesses against you? Or would you want someone to treat you with compassion, listen when you had a concern with reassurance and patience, and accept your faults with grace?
The second, is thinking of how we treat others-like strangers. Think about it. Do we treat the UPS man, the grocer, the person we pass on the street, or our co-worker better than the people in our home? Or the person we profess to love? Do we offer them smiles, and the best of us, and then give those we cherish our leftovers, grunts, moans, or nothing at all? Let’s ensure we treat the people that mean the most to us with the utmost respect and honor.
Last, are you doing something you were asked not to do? Are you responding in a way you were previously asked not to, or doing something you know will trigger a negative response because you are upset? If a request has been made of you, or you know something bothers someone, just don’t do it. Doing otherwise is the opposite of a loving response. It’s actually pretty rude and nasty.
Want to be a joy, and not a jerk?
I think this pretty much sums it up. It is one of the greatest commandments provided by Jesus: “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ Matthew 22:37-39, NLT
So, if you are waving “hello” to your neighbor, all smiles and joy…well, save a little for the ones closest to you as well. To the “neighbors” you spend time with behind closed doors. Those you interact with when you think no one else may be watching. Or listening. Give them all your joy, happiness, kind words, and loving responses, and a little less of your sarcastic quips, hurtful words, dismissive tones, and critical remarks.
Love is not rude. Love is not irritable. Love simply has no room to be a jerk.
Love is a joy.
About Me
I am January! Wife, mother, meemaw, pastor, and mental health provider who makes it through the day with my coffee, my journal, and my God; and I am also on some days a hot mess. A simple human, navigating life through the messy and sometimes chaotic.
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